Moving On...

Today I got the final call from my mother's case manager at the Chesapeake CSB.  She's been a constant in our lives for the past year and a half or so.  It's a bit bitter sweet.  I will miss having that connection, but am a bit glad to be out of the excessive red tape fest that is any agency you deal with.  They've been wonderful to deal with, but the annoying rules and funding cut offs are more stressful than they are help.  It's hard when you see people trying to help, but are prevented by the swipe of one little pen on a state budget.

I'm hoping I'll be able to change that.  Whenever I can fit "explaining to politicians how they are screwing us up" into my schedule I suggest everyone brace themselves.  I'm sure it will be the scream heard round the world.

We have to move on since she has insurance now and she is seeing a doctor board certified in Gero Psyche.  I'm sad, but happy that my mother is doing so much better.  I'm hoping all the hospitalizations are behind us and the conversations are more lucid than not.  We will miss Dr Q, Tonya and Susan.  Without them I'm sure we wouldn't have survived as long as we did through this process.

I did have one interesting email today.  I wrote an email to Gov McDonnell back in December or January I think (these months are just blending together for me).  I think it ACTUALLY got read.  And they sent me a letter that looked like it took more than 2 minutes to write, unlike the "fill in the constituent's issue" form letter I got from Sen Warner.  Tell me what you think of it...

Governor McDonnell has asked me to respond to your email describing the delay challenges your family faced in finding a Gero-Psych inpatient bed for your 65 year-old mother with a diagnosis of Schizoaffective Disorder.

Governor McDonnell and I appreciate your concern about having adequate inpatient mental health care services as the proportion of older adults’ population increases.  Thank you for providing the details of your concern with the assistance you mother received in your local community.  I encourage you to continue to communicate with your local Community Services Board for support.  I understand obtaining guardianship was a positive step forward for your mother.

I asked a representative of the Virginia Department of Behavioral Health and Development Services (DBHDS) to contact the Southside Geropsychiatic Services (SGS) sponsored by the Community Services Boards servicing Chesapeake, Norfolk, Portsmouth, Virginia Beach and Western Tidewater.  They provide free consultations to family or professional caregivers concerning behaviors which might put senior adults at risk of needing psychiatric hospitalization.  SGS can visit the home or facility at no charge and offer suggestion which can help to improve the situation and avoid unnecessary psychiatric hospitalization.  For further information on SGS, you can contact Kathy O’Connor.   DBHDS also recommended that you contact Marsha Obremski at The Pavilion at Williamsburg Place on their current planning for inpatient mental health services for older adult admissions.

Thank you for writing and for bringing your family’s concerns to our attention.  I wish you and your mother every success in obtaining mental health treatment and care that is responsive to her needs.

William A. Hazel, Jr., M.D.

Secretary of Health and Human Resources

1111 East Broad Street

Richmond, Virginia  23219

Now I'm not completely sure Mr Hazel understood the issue of the need for more inpatient beds and more resources for geriatric patients who suffer from mental illness.  But at least he cared enough to write me back and include some details from my email.  I wrote this after my mother spent 3 days in an ER waiting for one of only 6 Gero Psyche beds to open up (it was one of my more angry, less eloquent emails).  Maybe these people he refers to will be able to provide me with some help or guidance.  Maybe they'll have all the answers I've been searching for over the past 18 months or so.  Did I find the Holy Grail of Mental Health?  Hmmm, probably not, but getting someone/anyone to listen is a step towards making a difference.  And I will change things because that's what I do.  

The one thing I think everyone on this Earth needs to understand that change doesn't happen because you want it to happen.  Change happens because you get up and do something.  It isn't about supporting a candidate, voting (although incredibly important and your civic duty) or voicing your opinions in your social circles.  Change happens because there was a person who took action.  

Most of the time one person can only chip small hills out of the way, but without that one person nothing moves.